Wednesday, June 9, 2010

The Momentary Outsider

As a mom there are very few times you get to disengage from things but still be present. The kids cling, the dog circles, the husband defers to your judgment. You're still the person unable to separate clear thought from immediate reaction because you're still the mom. I've grown to see that this is part blessing, part curse to hardly ever be able to watch your family as an outsider or an objective observer. The blessing is the obvious. Moms are integral and are depended on as such. The curse is not always so obvious. It's the inability to unzoom and see things for what they really are, not clouded by your parenteral too close-up periscope.

On Sunday, we took the kids and dog to a great big beautifully distracting lake. I snuck a few times away from the center. It was awesome.

These images help me appreciate the fruits of our labor.
















































On these rare occasions I get to step out onto the periphery, I see clearly how my life is so much bigger than rinsing out Ziplocs, scraping off Kool-Aid barnacles from chairs, and finding 250 different ways to turn chicken breasts inevitably into nuggets.

And sometimes? It's even nice to jump back into the fold knowing they rely on it and expect nothing less.





















3 comments:

pajama mom said...

so true, i have been trying to do that this week, see the kids through my parents eyes. :)

OSMA said...

have you had much success?

pajama mom said...

a flicker here and there.